Identity Crisis

Hello Readers !

There comes a phase in life, may be very short lived, where we face identity crisis for ourselves and for our relations as well.
From start of life till end we come across so many people besides our blood relations. Few of them we call friends, few others acquaintance and still few others hold special place in our heart.

College and School days - a phase of life when friends are very important to us, they do everything for us and we also feel but when it comes to giving priority - it would always be relative. Blood becomes thicker, identity of relations become stronger.To an extent its understandable, given the current situation, the level of cheating, using, dumping, even trusting friends completely is difficult but then there is something called instinct and if that instinct fails - its ok, that is life, learning. Its all right to fail.

Probably irrational but happens

Different human beings have deiffernt identity and passion and interests and they are attached to different people and things at different levels.

There might also be cases like, I might be very passionate for somebody but that somebody might not be and hence differences crop up, we try to evaluate and relationship dies or probbaly it never existed.

We dont leave our parents at early age or say childhood and neither clashes happen, we dont understand identity and all. We tend to drift away from them when clashes happen in our point of views - identity crisis........we look for our identity. We don't want to be guided at every point or decisions to be taken on our behalf

Is any body wrong here??????????????????

When you talk to people, not everybody can understand what all is in your mind and that is when we say we click with some people and we dont click with others. If the other party doesnot get on the same wavelength, it results in disappointment/irritation.

In general people are highly judgemental and conclusive. At every point, for every action we try to judge people.We immediately form opinions about people dividing them into good and bad and also based on our observations and these opinion drives our behavior towards other people.

Life is too short, but still we are stuck with our notions. instead of giving smile to other person, we ill treat them for no reason at all but because we formed certain opinion.

Principles , etiquette, empathy, understanding, morality, listening ability etc make us good or bad and that again depends on the point of view of the other person. A so called good person is also not good for all and a so called bad person is not bad for all.

Few people live life based on emotions probably people who love literature an few people are high on rational level and things happening in life with respect to other people are like passe to them.

What is more important - sustainability/survival or freedom of expression/emotions.

Why this divide of apna-paraya exists? why just we cant be good to people who are good to us. Why we are always in a state of confusion, evaluation? why

Typicality of human behaviour across globe

Greetings to all !!! Came back again.

Again its my observation which I am sharing. We talk about country, nation and unity with respect to any other nation. My boss once said "I don't believe in borders and countries, human drew some lines  on the earth and created borders". At that moment of time i wanted to reply that even i don't believe but ya the necessity arises for better administration. Like our country is divided into states cities and then families for better administration and well being. I did not reply then, don't know why.

I love my country, its richness of culture and tradition, rituals, respect for elders, and especially woman  for the kind of dignity they maintain. Somehow the culture of west of too much openness doesn't appeal to me, it makes me think women just as mere object of pleasure for man although thousands of people might have different view point altogether. I abide by that also.The way one feels good and comfortable.

I am also pretty open in my talks and tend to oppose when i don't feel things right. For me also few people might have the same opinion as I had above.

I traveled almost across India as my father had transferable job. I grew up at different places and experienced different cultures and also staying in banks apartment exposed us to people from different states.

I came across parent's typical nature of protectiveness towards their children, tension of mothers for their daughter's marriage, mom's guiding daughters at every point and dad's looking after son and this nature of humans is not just across India but across globe as this is science, psychology and phases of life.

As a kid I used to feel that i would not be a mom like my mom in many aspects but then moms are moms and what changes across generation is vast pool of knowledge, discoveries, new creations, upper versions, acceptanace and understanding.

Clashes happen coz communication is always incomplete and due to mismatch of mental wavelength and incapability to understand the other person's side. At times we enjoy these differences and at times we detest them.At times we try to look for that "me" within us and at times we enjoy the status of "us" - the family as we call, the family as we say would do anything for its members.

There is so many shades of emotions inside us which keeps chnaging every moment. The most important thing to me is to stay happy and how do we do that.........probably by reaching an optimum level - a terminology used in Science but how do we reach that optimum level and exist in harmony with each other and the answer lies in  balance of emotions, actions, reactions.

The act of balancing is the most tough task. Are we really able to balance? Dont we get driven by one emotion over the other? Doesn't one wrong happening affect us throughout life? Isn't our past responsible for our present? Can we get away with it? Can we......................................?????????????????

Ultimately it seems like in an organization where all the process and systems are set, this earth is a bigger organization where in the hierarchy of positions defined, process and systems and rules of life set, how to live, how to speak, how to percive all boundaries set and thses boundaries are much bigger than the bounderies set by humans on earth. these mental boundaries are much strong and much tough to break.

I just wish if these mental boundaries could vanish and we could stay in harmony, i wish what i said would have been understood the same way, I wish i could do what i felt right, i wish i could listen to my heart and follow it instead of following a routine, i wish i could be free to express when I was happy or when i felt bad, I wish i jsut could be myself without stepping into other's boundary. I wish.............................At times, I feel these wishes never come true but then there came a new term into existence .....HOPE........................

Theory of Relativity - Emotions

My greeting goes to all my friends and readers who all will come across this and read this. I am totally naive to this blog writing but my constant thought process was not finding any outlet and i decided to write. As i said its my thought process hence i might not be right and so I would like to have comments from all of you and would like to correct myself and grow as a human being. I would like to stress on an old proverb: Knowledge increases on sharing.


Few years back, while in my usual thought process trying to understand in general human mind and emotions and what drives them - I discovered that Human emotions like Eienstien's theory of relativity (those who have studied science must be knowing this) are relative.


The emotions from love to hatred to jealousy to joy to any other emotion, arise in human being with respect to other human beings.


If u see somebody more successful, you would also wish to be like him/her.
If u love someone - you love somebody else (again relative - with respect to other)
you love urself as well but that is again when you find yourself better than others (people generally in your area of contact). You tend to dislike yourself and go into depression when you think or feel that you are worth nothing or nobody loves you which is again a relative emotion.


But only recently, I got corrected by one of my colleague that although emotions are relative but they are just not relative with respect to other human being but anything. One might be all alone on an island still there will be certain emotions like happiness with respect to beauty of the nature. Like when it rains we become happy, or we enjoy the peacefulness of the mountains and waves of the sea.


The next immediate thought that comes to mind is: Are all these emotions with respect to so many human beings we are associated in life, worth giving importance? if yes, how much? And who draws the line?